Sex Sold: An Interview about Prostitution with Mastering Life Ministry

12 03 2010

We always hear these stories about prostitutes in some campus. They are students by day and prostitute by night. Others go by groups to a certain beach destination and sell their bodies. Its hard to imagine the oldest profession in the world can be found in an institution that promotes morality and dignity.

ROCK Ministry recently got a privilege to interview David Kyle Foster a former prostitute, now a pastor and heads Mastering Life Ministry and Pure Passion TV. We talk this very sensitive and controversial topic and we learned a lot from this issue.

ROCK Ministry:  First why prostitute yourself? Is their no other alternative to chose from for an individual? Do these individuals count what will cost them to sell their bodies? What really goes through their minds?

David Kyle Foster: The reasons people prostitute themselves vary widely. For me, I was very angry at God and wanted to do something that would demonstrate my extreme anger at Him. I happened to be at a location where prostitution was going on and accepted an offer from someone.

Financial need drives most prostitutes to do it. They are generally people who are being propositioned often anyway, so they decide to meet their need that way because it is the quickest way. They often dot not seriously consider the dangers because their need is so great.

ROCK Ministry:  What are the reasons why some goes to prostitution? I think no one will go to the mirror one day and say “I will prostitute myself today”.

David Kyle Foster: Sometimes people are violently forced into prostitution and sometimes they are tricked into it and then fed drugs and are beaten to keep them doing it.

Others continue because they are sex addicts and it becomes a way to satiate their unquenchable sexual appetite.

ROCK Ministry: I know that you have talked to people who gone to this line of “work”. What was the first time experience for them? How did they start? Do they look for a pimp or what?
David Kyle Foster: Every story is completely different. Some people are sold into prostitution by their parents or guardians. Others are lured by pimps. No one goes looking for a pimp. Male prostitutes almost never work for pimps.

ROCK Ministry:  What are the emotional and mental effects of having sex every night and getting paid for it? Especially for students how can they live a normal life by day and be a prostitute at night?
David Kyle Foster: Emotionally it is very difficult. It makes you feel less than human, worthless, perverted and sick. It is likely that the person already felt this way about themselves which is why they even considered prostitution to begin with. But to actually do it makes you feel like dirt.

ROCK Ministry: Are their any physical abuse? Any horror story you might have heard?
David Kyle Foster:  Every male prostitute gets beaten by about 10% of those who pick them up. For females, it is probably closer to 40%. A smaller percentage also attempts to torture the prostitute. It’s only a matter of time and luck before it happens. People tried to murder me on 3 occasions during my 7 years as a prostitute.

RM: what diseases they might catch in having different sex partner? Are they curable? How about HIV? Do you have cases that got AIDS?

DF: It is guaranteed that a prostitute will contract many sexually transmitted diseases, no matter how careful they try to be. Even condoms do not prevent some diseases like HPV virus, which eventually causes cancer. HIV is also prevalent. I have had many friends and acquaintances die from AIDS.

RM: I don’t think some of them really like this kind of work. But is their a point in time that they actually enjoy what they are doing?

DF: If the prostitute is a sex addict, there are times when they enjoy the work on the surface, but the underlying self-hatred and self-disgust never goes away.

RM: Does nymphomania develop to prostitutes? What other abnormal behavior do they get in this?

DF: Some prostitutes are nymphomaniacs or sex addicts and even more male prostitutes are satyrs or sex addicts. The consequences of this behavior are very severe. Demonic spirits from customers enter the prostitutes, so they end up with a great need for deliverance, for example. Needless to say, they are rendered incapable of ever having a normal, satisfying sexual relationship once they marry without significant inner healing prayer and ministry.

RM: Can a prostitute especially students sell their bodies without being hooked into smoking, drinking or even drugs?

DF:  It is extremely rare for a prostitute not to develop smoking, drug and/or drinking problems because they need those substances to cover up the psychic pain of their lives.

RM: Do straight prostitute eventually end up being a homosexual?
DF: Male prostitutes who start out mostly straight will inevitably program their minds and bodies to respond more and more homosexually over time if they are having sex with other men.

RM: How about those who will do it “just once” and their out? I mean just to pay this one tuition fee or pay a project for the school and that’s it. Nothing to follow. What can you say to them?

DF: Prostitution is like quicksand. Once you enter it, you cannot escape consequences. There will be spiritual, emotional, psychological and physical consequences that can be quite severe from the very start.

RM: Are prostitutes still longing for a real relationship? Even if they feel dirty do they still hope to have a family? Do they think someone will get serious to them in spite of what they have done?

DF: Prostitutes desperately long to be normal and to have normal relationships. However, their behavior prevents them from having that. Just the fear of their spouse finding out – that alone can ruin the peace they otherwise might have in a marriage. It is extremely rare for someone to fall in love with someone they know has been a prostitute. It happens in Hollywood movies, but almost never in real life.

RM: For guys and even girls who found out their partner is or use to be a prostitute, how can they face this issue? How can they forgive their partner and still be with them or call it a split? How can they live out their relationship day by day thinking his or her partner is a prostitute?

DF: No one should stay in a relationship with someone who is a prostitute. You never know what day they will bring home to AIDS virus, or some other incurable disease.

If they fall in love with someone who used to be a prostitute, that is another story. They should take measures to be certain, however, that the person has truly been transformed from that way of thinking and living, and have been checked out physically by a doctor.

RM: How can a prostitute forgive that one who led them to prostitution? Maybe a partner or a family member who force them to this work.
DF: Sometimes only God can give us the power to forgive someone, but He does do that if we want Him to.

RM: What if someone wants to get out of this lifestyle? What is the first thing they have to do? Maybe someone reading this and they want to get out. Is their hope for them?

DF: A person who wants out need only turn to Jesus Christ for forgiveness, cleansing, healing and transformation.

They need to get into fellowship with believers who are faithful to God’s Word and who study it together and pray for each other.

They need to find a church that practices intimate worship of God, which is spiritual warfare.

I ended up attending a large church that also had small home fellowship groups, where I got alot of prayer. I also went through various healing and deliverance sessions at conferences and at a YWAM training school.

RM: How do they get back the respect for themselves? How can they go back to society with dignity and without guilt? How do healing the wounds starts? Who can they approach?
DF: Only God can give them their self-respect back. They need to pursue an intimate relationship with God where He speaks worth and value into their hearts, and where they come to experience the fact that Jesus’ blood has cleansed them from all sin. They need to practice believing 1 JN 1:9 and operate from what God says rather than from what they feel or have felt in the past. The Bible says that they are a new creation if they have repented and made Jesus Christ truly the Lord of their life. They need to learn and practice spiritual warfare. Dean Sherman’s book, Spiritual Warfare for Every Christian really helped me.

As for who to approach, they need to carefully watch people in church and see who are the ones who pray for and care about sexually broken people, and approach them.

RM:  I remember this one story about Ravi Zacharias. He was witnessing in a red light district and a prostitute say something like” If Jesus can really get us out this, how can He help us to find our daily living?” What practical help can a Christian do for these people?

DF: Our churches need to have outreaches to people who are coming out of these kinds of highly dysfunctional lifestyles. We need outreaches to former prostitutes, and human trafficking victims, and strippers and homosexuals and you name it. Pray for God to send those who can minister to such populations as Christ would and approach your pastors and entreat them to financially support such outreaches. As I read the Bible, these kinds of outreaches were among Jesus’ favorite!

People coming out of sex trafficking, for example, often need a place to live for a year or so while being trained in job skills as well as discipled in God’s ways. The church should finance these things. It is infinitely more important than plush carpeting and all the other excesses that we too often concern ourselves with.

RM: Thank you for this interview. We learn alot from you. Can you tell us about your ministry, what does it do and how can we reach you.

DF: Our ministry (www.MasteringLife.org) does 2 things: 1. we reach out to sexually bound and broken people with the news that God can set anyone free from anything, teaching them how He does it, and 2. we equip the Church to do the same.

We are trying to reach as many people as possible and so now put all our efforts into media outreaches, whether it be our weekly TV program (www.PurePassion.us), our Facebook page (www.facebook.com/purepassiontv), our iPhone app (which should be ready in a few weeks), our multi-front internet outreaches, Google ads, and our teaching resources (DVDs, CDs, books).

Currently our Pure Passion TV program is seen on 11 TV networks around the world in English, Bulgarian, Romanian, Spanish, Arabic and Russian, and we hope that we will be seen in every country and every main language very soon.

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Living on Power Prayer!

12 03 2010

What is prayer and how can we have an effective prayer life? We ask Ptr. Andrew Craig to help us answer these questions.

To me, prayer is our line of communication with the Lord. It is like the supply link for an army and we need to keep the communication lines open. A husband must keep communicating with his wife for the relationship to grow. Likewise we need prayer as an important part of our growing in our faith relationship with the Lord.

Praying isn’t something that is by ritual or rote, not something mechanical or by formula or certain method. Prayer is our natural language where we talk with our Heavenly Father and seek to express our heart to Him and find His grace and forgiveness. We can ask in His will for His help and guiding power for our lives and for others.

The Bible urges us to pray and so it is important, as our Lord wants us to depend upon Him and listen to Him. We need to stop and take time to turn our thoughts towards Him. Effective prayer happens as we learn to trust the Lord Jesus as our Saviour and find the peace that comes from yielding to Him and finding the joy of living in His favour. We can take small steps to learn to pray as we, moment by moment, have a prayerful life. And especially we can become thankful, for the blessings we often take for granted, and we can grow to be more gracious in how we relate to others about us. A prayerful person will find comfort in the scriptures, and the peace that passeth all understanding will keep our hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Andrew Craig – Aussie pastor, Fair Dinkum magazine www.thedinkum.com

Recommendation: Read “Of Christ, In the School of Prayer” by Andrew Murray. The classic and most popular book about prayer can be downloaded FREE:

http://www.davidcox.com.mx/library/M/Murray%20-%20With%20Christ%20is%20the%20School%20of%20Prayer.pdf





Truth Twisting: An interview about Cults with Fran Shankey of Tower to Truth Ministry

12 03 2010

ROCK Ministry: First Lets define an important word. What is a cult?
Fran Shankey: The word cult comes from the Latin word cultus and originally carried the meaning “to worship or give reverence to a deity.” So, originally, the term cult could be applied to any group of religious believers: Southern Baptists, Mormons, Presbyterians, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Catholics, Hindus or Muslims. However, as words change over the years the word cult wouldn’t be applied like this anymore but means something else.

I deal with what is sometimes referred to as non-Christian cults, which would be any group that claims to be Christian but distorts, perverts or deviates from Orthodox Christianity. It’s important to understand that a cult will deny one or more of the essential doctrines of the Christian faith. Essential doctrines are those that are indispensable beliefs for a true Christian because they are integral to the Person of God and the gospel message. These would be doctrines like the Deity of Jesus Christ, the virgin birth, the Trinity, salvation by God’s grace through faith apart from works, the bodily resurrection of Christ and His second coming.

Teachings that are important, but would not brand a group as a cult if they differed from your views would be, for example, the timing of end time’s events such as the rapture of the church, speaking in tongues, Calvinism, how often communion is shared in the local church, etc. Again, these teachings are important but not ones we should divide over.

ROCK Ministry: What are the marks of a cult and why are they dangerous?
Fran Shankey: The marks of a cult can vary from group to group. Not all cults will have all of the following marks, but will usually have at least 1 or more. Although the list isn’t exhaustive, some of the marks of a cult would be:
1) A deviation from essential doctrines of the Scriptures, as mentioned already.
2) An authority figure whose word is final on all matters. This could be an individual who calls himself a prophet, or an organization that governs all affairs. They often claim to be hearing directly from God, or are commissioned by Him in some way.
3) Cults may strip you of your former identity. Some cults in an effort to conform a person to their organization will go as far as replacing one’s personal clothing with the groups. We saw this in the UFO cult group Heaven’s Gate in the late 1990’s. When found dead in a house in California, all were wearing the same color sneakers. Some cults require you to give over your bank accounts and all personal possessions to the group. Some will even change your name or replace your family members with themselves. Rev. Sun Myung Moon and his wife, from the Unification Church, have done this. They’re referred to by members as their ‘True Parents’
4) Cults often use mind control on members. One form of this is information control which filters outside information away from the group, such as TV, radio, phone or internet access. A less extreme example is the Watchtower Bible & Tract Society (Jehovah’s Witnesses) which warns members about reading any religious material other than its own. That’s why JWs will refuse your tracts but have no problem handing you theirs.
5) Behavior control is another make of a cult. Cult groups often keep their members so busy with the group activity that they have little time to rest and think. The Moonies (Unification Church) do this as many of their members are out early in the morning selling flowers and come home very late at night exhausted.
6) Fear tactics are often employed by cults. Most non-Christian cults claim that adhering to the group is the only way a person can be saved and will tell its members that leaving the group will result in severe disfavor, discipline or damnation from God.
ROCK Ministry: How do they differ from Protestants or Bible believing Christians? Why is it so easy for people to lump a true Christian and a cult member?
Fran Shankey: Cults generally differ from Protestant/Bible believing churches for all of the reasons I already mentioned above. They deny one or more of the essential doctrines of the faith and/or use some type of control over their members to keep them under the group’s power. A good Bible church would never challenge anyone from thinking or acting independently, reading the Bible on their own, nor would it manipulate anyone’s personal life or claim one must read its own literature as a requirement for salvation. It also will never put its own writings on par with Scripture as, for example, the Mormons and Unification church do. Also, no sound Bible church will ever claim to be the only true church and the only way a person can be saved.
The reason why people lump zealous Christians in with a cult is basically because they don’t know what a cult is, nor do they usually know what a Bible believing church is. It’s basically done out of ignorance on their part. Plus unbelievers lack the understanding that when someone gets saved, they have a profound love for Jesus that overflows into their daily life. This zealousness for God is abnormal to the unbeliever since they don’t have the Holy Spirit so they lump them together with weird religious groups they see in the news.
ROCK Ministry: What’s the difference between a cult and false religion?

Fran Shankey: Good question. The main world religions today are Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism and Buddhism. These are not cults. They aren’t all true, of course only Christianity is true, but none of these is a cult. They’re all separate religions that don’t claim to be Christian, so they can’t be examined as such. They have their own particular doctrines, teachings and holy books that they hold to. However, there are cults within these religions. For example, a cult of Islam is the Nation of Islam. A cult of Hinduism is the Hare Krishna’s. My ministry, Tower to Truth, concentrates on exposing and evangelizing cults that would claim to be Christian, but, of course, are not.

RM: If someone handed you a cult literature say a magazine or tract, what would you initially expect to see or read from those materials?
FS: Probably a lot of truth. Remember, cults do teach truth. The problem is that it’s mixed with error. Rodent poison usually contains 98% ingredients that are harmless to the rodent. Only 2% of it is poisonous. Satan didn’t tell all lies to Adam & Eve in the Garden of Eden. This is why cults are hard to detect for the average person. Unless you have good discernment and are studied up on the subject of false teaching, many cults initially come across as just another Christian denomination. It’s important to have a good knowledge of the Bible, to test all things (1 Thessalonians 5:21) and test the spirits (1 John 4:1) because a cult will reveal itself in time by its teachings and practices.
For example, the 1st article of faith from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormons) is “We believe in God, the Eternal Father, and in His Son, Jesus Christ, and in the Holy Ghost”. Sounds good to me! But upon further inspection into the doctrines of Mormonism, you’ll find out that they believe in a totally different God, Jesus and Holy Ghost. Their vocabulary is the same as ours, but their definitions are much different.
RM: We use the same Bible but how come some eventually use it and turn into cults?
FS: Why groups go astray and become cults is not always clear. The Bible gives us clues. Man is inherently sinful (Psalm 51:5; Romans 5:12) and, because of this, likes to take advantage of others. Some people start cults because they want power and control. It feeds their flesh. They like the attention, women, money, fame. Peter talks about these people in scathing detail. For instance, 2 Peter 2:14 says these false teachers have “eyes full of adultery and that cannot cease from sin, beguiling unstable souls”.
Others start cults perhaps because they are deceived themselves and truly believe they have the truth. I have sometimes wondered if Joseph Smith, the founder of Mormonism, really had some of the supernatural visions he claimed. Personally, I don’t know. Remember, 2 Co 11:14, 15 says that Satan transforms himself into an angel of light and his ministers transform themselves into ministers of righteousness. If Smith did have encounters with an angel, we can be sure from the angel’s message that he certainly wasn’t from God. Whether men start cults with full knowledge that they’re duping others or whether they are demonically deceived themselves is difficult to fully know. Maybe some of both is true. 2 Timothy 3:13 says that “evil men will grow worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived”. It seems to suggest that after a while, you begin to buy your own lie.
RM: Some of the cults here in the Philippines dates from WW1 and WW2. How do these times significantly contribute to the development of cults?
FS: I would have to take a stab at this one since I never researched this. I would say that cults prey on man’s fears. Certainly fear is at its pinnacle in times of uncertainty like war. Cults promise men peace and happiness apart from the wicked ways of the world. They promote themselves as safe havens that have the blessing of God and naturally draw those who are looking for meaning, security and satisfaction in life. These groups often advertise a utopian society but never deliver the goods.
RM: Some readers might say that we are so judgmental and unloving about these people. What can you say about that?
FS: If ‘we’ is referring to Christians at large, I would have to say that, sadly, some of us are judgmental and unloving toward these people. This plays into the cult’s hand as the leaders often tell the group that the world will attack and hate them. I would hope anyone reading this interview, or anyone calling themselves a Christian, wouldn’t be like this. Jesus had compassion on the multitudes because they were weary and scattered, like sheep without a shepherd.
This can be tricky because the Bible has some very scathing descriptions and warnings about false teachers. It describes them, among other things, as beasts, dogs and wolves in sheep’s clothing. Perhaps a good way to reconcile this is that Jesus was compassionate with the multitudes but had very harsh words against the religious leaders who led them astray. It’s easy to get angry at people who pervert the gospel since its so dear to us, but we must strive, as Paul wrote, to speak the truth in love. This should be every apologist’s life verse.
But there is nothing unbiblical about calling someone’s doctrine wrong and trying to persuade them to the truth. Some Christians feel as though any negative remark against anyone’s religion is judgmental and unloving. I would like to see this verse in the New Testament since I haven’t read it yet. To say nothing or, even worse, to encourage someone in their error is perhaps the most unloving thing we can do. Sitting idly by watching others go to hell isn’t in my definition of love. The New Testament is full of verses that exhort Christians to share the truth with people in error, to correct those in opposition (2 Timothy 2:25) and to contend earnestly for the faith once for all delivered to the saints (Jude 3). The Apostle Paul didn’t go into Corinth or Athens and say “Oh, well, as long as you really believe in your religion, who am I to judge?” He traveled throughout the Grecian world telling idol worshippers they had the wrong God and that they needed to repent and put their faith in the only true Savior, Jesus Christ.
RM: Are those people in cults aware that they might be wrong? Well I think they can sense they are different from others but have this sort of skepticism to prompt them to check what is truth?
FS: People in cults are people. Real people have doubts. I think most of us would say that at some time in our walk we’ve asked ourselves if we’re sure Christianity is really true or if God truly exists. Questioning our beliefs is a normal part of being human. Although cult groups try to dissuade independent thinking, they can’t stop it altogether. So, yes, people in cults ask themselves these things too. Does their questioning lead them to seek the truth? Maybe. Hopefully. Can God send someone who knows Jesus to them at just the right time when they doubt? Definitely. Many ex-cult members began their exodus from the group by questioning the group’s teachings. The questioning is usually bottled up inside but its there.
RM: How can someone get out of cults? What are the steps in finding freedom from it?
FS: Getting out of a cult isn’t like leaving the Baptist church to go to the Lutheran church down the street. You have to understand that it’s often leaving your entire known world. If someone was in the group long enough, they often will leave many friends and close family behind, maybe forever. All they know, do, and lived for will be forsaken.
Many ex-cultists, even when out of the group for considerable time are scared to death to go to another church. The cult mentality still dictates their thinking even though they’re inactive. Depending on the length of time spent inside, leaving a cult is painful, frightening, lonely and bleak. If you know someone in this position they need a very loving and patient person to walk them through the process. There are groups online that specialize in getting former members of specific cult groups together. Sometimes they meet together once a month at someone’s house or at a restaurant. These groups can be invaluable and places where confused people can meet others who have trod down this terrifying road before them, and lived to tell about it. One thing we need to remember is that just getting someone out of a cult doesn’t mean the job is done. It’s a two-fold process. Out of the cult and into the truth.
RM: Schools here have religious freedom and are tolerant to spirituality. How can we be still maintain respect to their religious freedom and point them to truth? How do you witness to someone who is your friend or classmate or a professor? I think that’s very hard to do.
FS: Religious freedom is a good thing. We should be able to choose which religion we want to follow. Jesus never forced conversions. He invited men to Himself. I meet people in my daily life from all sorts of religious backgrounds. I’ve learned a lot about them and their beliefs by asking questions. I try to maintain an outward interest in them as individuals and show respect to them, even though I disagree with their religion. Questions are one of the best ways to witness. It shows you’re interested in the person plus it allows you to place thought provoking questions into their minds. You can ask questions to anyone whether you have known them all your life or just met 5 minutes ago. If you are witnessing to a religious person you may want to check out some books by Ron Rhodes. He has a series of books called Reasoning from the Scriptures. He has them on a variety of groups like the Jehovah’s Witnesses, Mormons and Roman Catholicism. Greg Koukl from Stand to Reason (str.org) also does a great work regarding sharing your faith, especially with those with a postmodern worldview. Although we should equip ourselves the best we can, the best witness can be as simple as just sharing a simple gospel presentation and what Jesus did for you. The man in John 9 said “I was blind but now I see”. Simple and to the point.
RM: Some may come to you to talk about their religion. How would you graciously decline such conversations? When is the time to give them answers to their beliefs?
FS: Personally I love it when people come to me and want to talk about their religion. I just wish it would happen more! I might not ever decline, as long as the time was appropriate. Paul said to be ready in season and out of season. Think about it, there are only 2 times we need to share our faith: in season and out of season. The rest of the time we have an excuse. Ha! If someone comes to you and you don’t have the time or feel unprepared, the best way to handle that is to ask them if you could speak to them at another time that you both agree on. This will give you time to pray, prepare and become more confident in your witness.
RM: I love your radio show “Test All Things”. It’s short but very informative. Tell us about it, your ministry, website and how can we contact you for further information.
FS: Test all Things is an extension of Tower to Truth Ministries. Tower to Truth was started about 10 years ago to witness to Jehovah’s Witnesses. The name Tower to Truth is a play on the word Watchtower (from the Watchtower to the truth). The radio show began in October, 2004 and it continues airing twice a week on WVCH in the Philadelphia, PA (USA) area. Since beginning, the topics have grown considerably but the show is focused on apologetics, exposing false teachings and equipping Christians to share their faith more effectively.
My web site is at http://www.towertotruth.net You’ll find articles and a huge inventory of downloadable mp3 files of my radio show and personal testimonies of former cult members. Feel free to contact me by email at help@towertotruth.net or by phone at 610-513-5525. Thank you for this opportunity and God bless your ministry!





Eat This Book: Do Hard Things by Alex and Brett Harris

2 12 2009

THE GLAM: I’ve been contemplating on how I wasted my years as a Christian in those time I was young. I should have done this and that. It’s like that milk commercial “growth gap” years. With the use of paper dolls as illustration, it shows that between a certain age you have a gap of no growth. If by judging that I can say: Yes I truly wasted it. Maybe you have done it too.

The book “Do Hard Things” by the Harris twins, Alex and Brett (younger brothers of Joshua Harris author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye) does not provide salt for your wounds but insights and a message that its not too late or early to do for the glory of God. Filled with heroic stories, humorous anecdotes and biblical insights from rebelutionaries (as they call themselves) to combat low expectations and wrong culture upbringings that stops teens and young adults to do hard things. Mind you, this not a Alex and Brett show. In the first part its there stories how they amazingly started the rebelution and finish off with ordinary teens stories of what they have done. As they say, this is a different kind of teen book. They should change the title to “Christian Teen Counterculture Made Easy” (well thats every uncool title, please pardon me). Because it is easy to do hard things when your in God’s team.

The part that really hit me are the the Kidult and The Myth of Adolescence (check the link at the end of the review to read the excerpt). The twins thought this book really hard. This not the usual dos and donts for teens. It changes the way you look at things we do for God a great way. Every pages shouts to you “Doing hard things is cool!”. In God’s family your enlisted to be rebelutionaries, but will you heed the call to go out of your comfort zone?

If you think this book is geared to Western readers only, think again. You’ll find in the midst of rebelutionary, stories of three Christian Pinoy teens who done the hard things. Now your worry about getting lost is dropped and you dont need a Penaflorida to inspire you. Just be as ordinary as yourself and you can move the world with the gospel. Prepare to do hard things. It starts by obeying God’s will and putting it to action. Teens (and adults too) the book really has an impact. Its an engaging and easy read. This book calls you stand up, fight back and be cool.

Taste Test: Read articles included in the book originally posted from The Rebelution blog:

My First Shower Nearly Killed Me

The Myth of Adolescence Part 1

The Myth of Adolescence Part 2





Out Of Lesbianism

11 07 2009

One of the current issues in our time is homosexuality. So ROCK Ministry (RM) talks with Mary Loker (ML) and she shared her life as a lesbian and how Christ change her the way God intended her to be.

Her book “The Making of an Oak”, CD’s “The Way to My Heart” and tracts are available for free at ROCK Ministry. Please contact us if you want copies of it.

 
ROCK Ministry: Can you give us your background? What was life when you were a lesbian?

Mary Loker: I grew up in a strong Christian home. My parents were missionaries and I was a student of the Bible. I had a heart for the lost and participated in Christian events and even went to a Christian college. I did not have my first lesbian relationship until after college. I struggled many years internally with my lesbian feelings and my faith in God.
 
ROCK Ministry: What age where you feel that you were “different”? Did you tell your parents about it? What are their reactions?

Mary Loker: From a young age (7 or 8), I was drawn to girls – wanting to “go steady” or hold hands. I was always a “Tomboy” – even as a small child. I did not tell my parents of my draw towards girls. I eventually told them about my lesbianism after I had struggled with it for many years – when I was around age 29.
 
RM: Is it hard being with people knowing we’re a lesbian? Being with men what do you feel? Are accepted?

ML: I used to be very secretive (ashamed) about my life, my past (being a lesbian), but now, I am very open and have nothing to hide. I am free in my Father’s eyes and it doesn’t matter what people think about me. Being with men – I have some very amazing male friends, but I am not interested in dating any of them. I feel I have a higher calling from God to be an ambassador for His Kingdom – and I surrender to all that He has for me in this.
 
RM: Did you have relationships with other women? Did it lead to the point of being romantic?

ML: I had 4 romantic relationships with women. For the most part, my partners were Christians and we started as good friends – and the attractions became romantic.
 
RM: Did people criticize you or Christians telling that you’re wrong? What’s your reaction then?

ML: Mostly my family would confront me and tell me that I was living in sin. I was not allowed to bring my partner to some family gatherings nor bring my partner around my sibling’s children. I knew that the church was not accepting of my behavior, so I stayed away from Christian friends and believers.
 
RM: Some Homosexuals says that they got homosexual thoughts when they were abused when they were kids or there was no father figure to look at. In your case what lead you to homosexuality?

ML: I have questioned the origin of my homosexual longings for many years…. Intense wrestling with God! I think that some woman have had terrible experiences with abuse and have a hatred towards men which may lead them to the arms of a woman. Me – I can only say that this has been the thorn of my flesh – as Paul calls it in II Corinthians 12:7. This thorn has broken me and brought me to the feet of Jesus and now I have so much compassion for the gay and lesbian community… to be a light to them and share Jesus with them. I can say that my struggle with this thorn has been worth it to be able to understand, relate and share Jesus with the gay and lesbian community.
 
RM: Some lesbians I know have this drive to outwit or outsmart men. Some are very possessive in their relationship that their partner can’t exit in that relationship. What do you think drives lesbians with that behavior? Have you had that behavior too?

ML: Women who have been hurt by men or even just rebelling against God’s commands definitely have anger/rejection issues. I think much of it goes back to the curses in Genesis 3:15 and 16. Women are fighting for equality in all the wrong ways.

Anything not blessed by God is going to be damaging for a person. God set it up for sexual relations to be enjoyed in a covenanted relationship between a man and a woman. Anything outside of that – will be dysfunctional and damaging. This includes heterosexual sex outside of a covenant.
 
RM: Can you honestly say that you’re happy being a lesbian then like ordinary people? Homosexuals portray a normal life or another lifestyle but what really is the truth?

ML: During my years living with women, I had the appearance of normalcy – worked hard, lived a “good” life. But I did not have peace and my relationships never satisfied me. There was a lot of emotional dependency which came out as possessiveness, control and disharmony. I had the Spirit of God after me, so I was not satisfied until I surrendered to Jesus. However, a non-Christian gay or lesbian will be just as any other non-believer… living their life as best they can.
 
RM: What made you decide that you want to leave lesbianism? What was the turning point? Did you just get tired of it?

ML: As I approached 40 years old, I grew tired. My eyes were opened to how these relationships were not working and not satisfying me. I saw the dysfunction. God was speaking to me in so many ways. He opened my eyes to much deception in the world, the church, and the governments. I can honestly say, God was leading me to Him – step by step – through solid loving believers and mostly His Word.
 
RM: What are the struggles and hardships of getting out of it? Did it come overnight for you?

ML: After I left my last relationship, God pretty much isolated me from people. I was very much alone – with just the Word of God and a few male friends. I still had a few attractions to women, but God was also teaching me many things in the midst of those times.
 
RM: Now that you’re a Christian what is the difference between what you are back when you’re a homosexual and now?

ML: To be honest, I am not sure when I became a Christian as I tend to think that our walk with Him is a journey. I had a relationship with God throughout my life, but it wasn’t until a few years ago, that I repented and surrendered my life – and have chosen to follow HIS plan, not mine. What Christians don’t understand is this…. Many Christians struggle with homosexuality. I had a strong believer in Jesus question me about my relationships with women and he was FLOORED when I told him that I was WITH a woman while I was teaching at a Christian School – and teaching Bible.

I had a heart after God – but I was also living as a lesbian – in secret…. Living a double life. God was patient with me and led me out of the counterfeit lesbianism love to a deep relationship with Him.
 
RM: The controversial issue now is same sex marriage and same sex parenting. Unlike gay relationships, does lesbian relationship guarantee a monogamous relationship and sexually disease free relationship? What about those adopted ones of the lesbian couples? Are they truly happy?

ML: I was always monogamous, but this is not always the case. ANYONE engaging in promiscuous sexual relationships is susceptible to disease. If a person is not a Christian, they do the best they can with what they have. I am sure there are very “good” moms raising their children just as there are very abusive straight couples beating their children – both types of families are lost without Jesus.
 
RM: There are churches that are liberal to homosexuals and even ordain them to the clergy. Why didn’t you settle for them rather abandon homosexuality because they guarantee refuge for homosexuals?

ML: When I was with woman, I was always around the Christians and churches who preached against homosexuality. I did go to a few gay friendly churches, but I was never drawn there.
 
RM: Homosexuals says” Hey good for you, you found your own happiness” “I am happy of what I am, I don’t need to change” or “I am born this way and God made me like this. There is no need to change.”, what’s your response to these?

ML: The issue is — they need Jesus. People need Jesus no matter if they are gay, straight, a gambler, a drunk, a prisoner, a proud religious person. What Christians need to realize is this… stop addressing their sexuality and meet them as a lost person. Love them, befriend them, understand them – and when God makes a way, share Jesus with them. A key passage is Luke 7 – Jesus’ interaction with the Centurion. Jesus did not address his shameful living, but addressed his need. It is God’s kindness that leads us to repentance.
 
RM: Any advice to those people who wants to come out of lesbianism or homosexuality, to those souls who are struggling to get out and don’t feel they can’t change. Is there hope? Is there a thing called change and is it possible and permanent?

ML: The goal is a repentant, surrendered life to Jesus Christ and then in that process, God renews a person’s mind and a disciple is created. God leads people into righteous living. It is the same for anyone who is trapped by ANY issue.
 
RM: Tell me about your ministry, your materials and how can they reach you for further information?

ML: I follow the Lamb where He leads. I meet people where they are and love them. As God opens the opportunities, I share His truth. I plant and water seeds and God brings the increase. My book, testimony on CD and tracts are available to anyone who asks – for free. I love sharing what God has and is doing in my life. I can be reached at: truthseekersusa@gmail.com